One in eight soldiers returning from war suffers from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, but less than half of them seek help. That's according to a recent army study.
A local veterans counselor, Pete Garcia, says soldiers returning to Amarillo with PTSD need to seek help immediately. He it can cause problems with marriage, family, and other complications like isolation, anxiety, depression, and even suicide.
"The individual starts to break down as time goes on. It could be up to 15 to 20 years. Or it could be happening now, but they are turning to other self medications like alcohol or drugs to deal with the issues, which create other problems in themselves."
Garcia encourages family members to seek help if they notice a change in their soldier's behavior once they come home from the battlefield.
"The individual does not see his attitude or behavior, but the family does and the family is exposed to that, and the family can see it but he can't."
Garcia adds resources are available to veterans for free, but he encourages them to come to the Veterans Center in Amarillo at 3414 Olsen Boulevard, Syite E or call them at 354-9779.
The happy days of a soldier's homecoming can quickly come to an end, as stress and trouble reconnecting with family members becomes an issue, here's one Amarillo's families story.
Marine Savath Phetluangsy was deployed overseas for almost a year. Before he came home he took classes to get prepared.
"chaplain's were there to counsel us on how to readjust back in life. They told us don't go back and try take over everything."
Savath and his wife Terry say their adjustment was a smooth one because of good communication.
"Especially with things you may have dealt with overseas they might not understand what you're going through. "
He says having Terry as an outlet rather then bottling everything up helped, but reconnecting with his four children was a little more difficult.
Terry says "The little ones were a little like hmmmm. Our ten year old did tell me I asked him, did you have a hard time when daddy got home? He said a little bit because I had to get to know my dad again and he didn't know anything about my ten year old life."
"It was hard cause I play soccer and he was the one to go to all of my games and it was hard not having him there." said his oldest daughter Kylie.
Counselors say be prepared that they may have changed, that you have changed and the kids have changed, and remember everything won't be perfect. Savath says he relies heavily on his fellow marines for support and say his advice is to make sure things are well in your home life before you deploy.
"Make sure you have a strong communication before you go there because any little issue that you have turns out to be big issues while your gone."
After a little time the Phetluangsy's are one big happy family again. Here are some tips to help families connect after deployment:
- Make time for yourself to gather your thoughts and prepare for deployment. Ensure that you are mentally and physically fit and ready to deploy.
- Spend time with family and friends. Make time for you and your spouse to be alone, spend some time with each child and do things as a family.
- Discuss your concerns with your family, and listen to their concerns. No matter how much your spouse loves you, he or she may have some concerns about trust or managing the household in your absence. Your children may be wondering if you will come back. Offer honest, age-appropriate information to your children in response to their questions.
- Make sure that your finances are in order. If you are the primary financial manager for your household, educate your spouse so that he or she can take over these duties in your absence and ensure that financial obligations are met. Also, make a plan for what you will do with the extra money that you receive while deployed. Having a plan for using the money means that temptation is less likely to get the best of you and result in impulsive or frivolous spending.
- Encourage your family to become involved in the family support groups on post, as well as other sources of social support.
- Keep in touch with your family and friends via e-mail, letters, phone calls and care packages. Stay current on the things that matter most to you. This will help after you return home, too, because you will feel less behind, less like you have so much to catch up on.
- If you must talk business in your correspondence with your spouse, start your conversation by checking on one another and end your conversation with positive words, love and encouragement.
- Take care of yourself physically and psychologically.
- Get some exercise-at least 20-30 minutes per day, at least three days per week.
- Eat well. Do not skip breakfast; choose low-fat, high-fiber foods; watch your sugar and junk food intake; eat complex carbohydrates; try to stick to a regular meal schedule; and do not overeat.
- Stay hydrated and try to limit caffeine and alcohol intake. Caffeine and alcohol dehydrate the body. Also, caffeine can cause physiological arousal-increased heart rate, shortness of breath, tightness in the chest-that mimics anxiety.
- Try to get adequate rest and sleep.
- Make some time to relax with deep, diaphragmatic breathing, visualization, meditation and/or progressive muscle relaxation. Enjoy hobbies such as reading, writing or listening to music. Pray. Interact with others-fellow service members, chaplains, mental health professionals-and talk about your experiences and feelings, share good news from home, and so on.
- Keep a journal of your experiences. Writing is helpful to process today's events and tomorrow's expectations. Your journal can be a nice gift to your family when you return from deployment to let them know what your life was like while you were deployed.
- If crises occur, try to view them as opportunities for growth and maturity, a challenge rather than a threat. Something can be learned from everything that happens.
- Stay involved as best you can in your children's education, activities and interests. Ask them about what they are doing, and support their positive efforts at education, extracurricular activities, helping your spouse, etc. Try to understand what your children are thinking and feeling.
- Reach out to your fellow service members to decrease feelings of loneliness and isolation. Social support is the best mediator of stress and other psychological issues. Share ideas for overcoming the challenges of separation and reunion.
- When you are preparing to return home, be sure to say appropriate goodbyes to your cohorts. You likely formed a new family with many of your fellow service members, and it is important to say goodbye and/or arrange to keep in touch if you desire.