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Inside the Mind of a Child Abuser

"Good parents just lose it and I have to say unfortunately its not that rare," says Psychiatrist Son Vi Nguyen "Good parents just lose it and I have to say unfortunately its not that rare," says Psychiatrist Son Vi Nguyen

Thousands of children are victims of child abuse every year in Texas. A horrible trend that puts the lives of our kids at risk.

Everyday a child is brutally abused... The shocking part is the fact that their abusers are normally an adult without a criminal past... Meaning everyday, loving parents, can quickly turn to abuse to release anger.

Parents normally go through a break down process that leads to violence.

Psychiatrist Son Vi Nguyen says, "The breakdown comes through the facts that years of months of frustration with a child who maybe a little more difficult to handle behavior wise or emotionally wise."

Nguyen says the thoughts of violence or physical punishment come after love turns to annoyance. "The compassion wares out and then starts the process of frustration. And when someone is frustrated for so long at some point their coping skill fails and they lose control."

There are three steps that signal an emotional collapse is about to take place. Number one acting out of emotion. Nguyen says, "To quick of a reaction, its an emotional response of the moment."

Step two is not letting go of the little things your kids do... Which inevitably causes step three.

"If they try to address to many things at once then the system can breakdown." Nguyen says focus on picking your battles, take breaks often if you feel stressed, and never lash out at your children, no matter what they have done, because in the end it is good parents who make a bad decision.

"Good parents just lose it and I have to say unfortunately its not that rare" Nguyen says.

Expert also recommend setting time aside once a week to take a break from your kids.

Get a relative or friend to babysit...because just one night away from the stress of children can calm your attitude and refocus your attention on being a good parent.

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